Most parents will agree that a child’s temper tantrum is a dreaded behaviour.
It can be quite upsetting for parents to deal with an irate little person who is yelling at the top of his or her lungs. And how a parent handles such predicaments is of great importance to stop the outburst and prevent it from becoming a habitual behaviour.
Sadly, some individuals seem to have trouble with outgrowing the tantrum phase even as they move into adulthood. They are often quick to lash out against any person who dares to offer advice. This harsh response is indicative of a heart that has grown resistant to correction. These individuals are at risk of of shutting out wisdom altogether.
In an info-savvy era, our hunger for information drives us to constantly demand the truth about all sorts of situations, including domestic, international and even galactic issues.
But, are we as eager to know the truth about ourselves and areas in our personal lives that could use some improvement?
Growth requires us to stretch and this can be a painful process, as outlined in Hebrews 12:11 (NKJV): “Now no chastening seems to be joyful for the present, but painful; nevertheless, afterward it yields the peaceable fruit of righteousness to those who have been trained by it.”
Let’s face it: The truth can sting, but the discomfort is temporary. If we could learn to bypass our defensiveness towards what seems like criticism, and listen carefully, we just might discover some nuggets of wise counsel.
Would wise counsel be worthy of our consideration if it has the potential to transform our areas of weakness into areas of strength?
To lead a successful life of integrity, we should be open to opportunities for learning and for correction.
How to Cherish Correction
Here are some ways that we can embrace correction in our lives:
1) Be honest about areas of weakness.
Take some time to reflect on your strengths and weaknesses. It takes courage to admit your weakness to yourself, and it is the first step to becoming an overcomer. Spend time with the Lord in prayer and openly acknowledge the areas in your life that are challenging to you. Ask the Lord to exchange your weakness for His strength, and to give you a heart that is open to receive correction. God will bring correction and breakthroughs in those areas, if you are willing to make the necessary changes towards growth.
“Behold, happy is the man whom God corrects; Therefore do not despise the chastening of the Almighty.” (Job 5:17)
2) Read and apply the Scriptures.
The Word of God tells us in 2 Timothy 3:16-17: “All Scripture is given by inspiration of God, and is profitable for doctrine, for reproof, for correction, for instruction in righteousness, that the man of God may be complete, thoroughly equipped for every good work.”
There is much to glean from the Word that will help us to refine our character. Study the Scriptures and look for principles that you can apply to conquer your area of weakness. Commit to applying these instructions regularly, and whenever you feel like you are on a slippery slope, run back to the place of prayer and study of the Word.
3) Seek mature support for accountability.
Be wise about whom you open up to about your weakness. Tweet This Avoid putting information about your weakness on any kind of a billboard (e.g. a status update on social media). The sad reality is not everyone out there has your best interest at heart.
Instead, ask the Lord to connect you with a mature person, such as, if applicable, your spouse, a family member, a church leader, a counsellor, and/or a reliable friend, who will keep you accountable in overcoming your area of weakness. This person/people can be a trusted listening ear to help reinforce your efforts towards your area of weakness and provide you with sound counsel and feedback.
“Where no counsel is, the people fall: but in the multitude of counsellers there is safety.” (Proverbs 11:14)
4) Assess the value of any advice that you receive.
Before you choose to be dismissive of any advice that you receive, and well before you scrutinize the intentions of the advisor, assess whether the advice could potentially help sharpen you.
You might not realize that an area in your life could use some improvement. That area of weakness could become a blindspot if it is not dealt with or is deliberately ignored. You never know how God will choose to speak to you…and the message could be sent through a most unlikely person.
Ask the Lord to help you to have a heart that is receptive to wisdom and correction. Never throw away good advice. Tweet This It may be of help to you, or you may have the opportunity to pass it along to someone else one day.
“Whoever loves instruction loves knowledge, But he who hates correction is stupid.” (Proverbs 12:1)
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Can you recollect any advice or counsel that you have received that has helped you in your journey? Please share your thoughts in the comments section below.
p.s. In a future post, we will offer some useful tips to people who have advice to offer to others and how to advise well.